When Phoebe and I decided to move to Brighton, it took one week to find our ideal flat and just a month to move. How did we do it so fast? people asked. How did we know it was the right move? some said.
Well, I got very clear about what I wanted, I made the decision and then started taking action. It was very obvious which properties were worth looking at, from the Right Move alert I set up for the exact specific area I was interested in.
So when something exciting came up, I knew it could be ‘the one’ so we jumped in the car and went to look. Again, I had very specific requirements for the kind of outlook I wanted, the kitchen layout and the lighting/sunset direction, so that narrowed things down nicely. 4-5 flats in the same development were viewed, 3 discarded immediately due to the outlook. The fifth knocked the fourth out of the park in terms of light, outlook and kitchen layout, so that was that.
There are many things I’ve wanted really badly in my life. While I’ve been successful many, many times, I haven’t achieved a notable few things.
I didn’t get into St Martins’ School of Art to study fashion. That hurt. I thought I was brilliant but it was the day Chernobyl blew up with a toxic cloud blowing our way, I was late setting off, the traffic into London was gridlocked so I might not have interviewed as well as I might. I was over-reaching on that one perhaps.
There are one or two people that I really wanted to be besties with, that didn’t feel the same about me.
Then there are the things I want, that perhaps I shouldn’t. For example, I tend to fall in love with people from afar, projecting all sorts of qualities onto them that they simply don’t possess, then I have to spend the next couple of years convincing them that a relationship would be a really good idea. I’m working on that one.
But compared to the list of failures, the list of things I’ve set my heart on and then achieved is enormous. Sometimes the results are beyond even my expectations. Such as the time I went looking for a property deal and ended up buying and renovating a 12-bedroom hotel, no money down.
Am I lucky?
Do I have the right contacts?
Do I just work harder (or have more balls) than others?
Is it the Law of Attraction at work?
What is the Law of Attraction anyway? I took this from the Law Of Attraction website (and I’m sure they won’t mind as I know the founders of the site). It’s a great site if you want to learn more, with lots of free resources.
Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on.
It is believed that regardless of age, nationality, or religious belief, we are all susceptible to the laws which govern the Universe, including the Law of Attraction. It is the Law of Attraction that uses the power of the mind to translate whatever is in our thoughts and materialize them into reality.
In basic terms, all thoughts turn into things eventually.
If you focus on negative doom and gloom you will remain under that cloud. If you focus on positive thoughts and have goals that you aim to achieve you will find a way to achieve them with massive action.
I didn’t really like the movie ‘The Secret” produced by Rhonda Byrne and I’d already read “The Science Of Getting Rich” by Wallace D. Wattles without really ‘getting it’. I didn’t like the ‘wooliness’ of both, not enough practical instructions on what to do, for me.
Then I read “Synchronicity: The Inner Path Of Leadership” by Joseph Jaworski on a sunbed in Greece in 2010. This took a more scientific walk around the whole topic while telling a belter of a story, where Joseph (son of Leon Jaworski, who prosecuted Nixon) essentially gave up everything and went for a trip around the world to investigate synchronicity. He came up with many thoughts about leadership and four “Entrepreneurial Principles” that I liked a lot.
Almost coincidentally, he interviewed some top-level quantum physicists along the way who shared remarkable insights into synchronicity and the ‘Butterfly Effect’. The book was great and somehow made me want to look further into the Laws Of Synchronicity aka Law Of Attraction).
Could there be something in it? Could I learn to make it work for me?
Well, unbeknownst to me, I was about to be given the chance because there was a financial shitstorm coming and my business, my life and my confidence was about to disappear down the Swanee, tout suit.
No matter what you think about the Law Of Attraction, there are several things to commend it. You learn to live in the moment, to focus on what you really, really want, no matter what is happening around you right now. You learn to nurture positive thoughts while banishing the negative which is a very good habit.
It helped too that one of my new mates was a guy called Andy Shaw who had already been successful in two industries. While temporarily in the same position as me in 2010 – 2011, Andy had already started work on what was to turn into his second bestseller. He was writing a pair of books ‘Creating A Bug Free Mind‘ and its sequel ‘Using A Bug-Free Mind’.
He was distilling everything he’d learned in business and life, plus what he’d found useful in every one of the many personal development books he’d read since 2004 or so, when we met and I told him about ‘Rich Dad, Poor Dad’. Yes, he’d got so successful to date – over 200 properties and 16 supercars successful – without reading one single book on how to do it.
From Andy, I learned about the ‘Law Of Attraction On Steroids’.
One of the first exercises in his book is to get control of your mind. He describes how, during one of his worst times during the crash/credit crunch of 2009/2010, he realised that his thoughts were racing and that he couldn’t do one of the simplest, easiest things he’d always be able to do. Quiet his mind. Yes folks, this big burly guy, who’d worked among builders and in construction all his life, had been practising meditation without knowing it.
I had the pleasure of reading his books before publication, in fact, it was my idea to split them into two, as every time I fell asleep reading his first book, I nearly brained myself! I highly recommend them as they are down to earth, real life and not woo-woo at all.
One of the phrases Andy uses when talking about his version of the Law Of Attraction is one that’s stuck with me ever since. Brace yourself, it’s more ‘building site’ than ‘personal development spa’.
“Shit travels at the speed of shit. It’s exceedingly slow but very accurate and it will catch you up one day”.
His point was that you need to start cleaning up your thoughts right now. Each negative or limiting thought creates something similar that will come and hit you in the face like a stinky poo pie later on, so if you don’t want to get buried in a pile of poo out of nowhere sometime in your future, clean your thoughts up RIGHT NOW.
The magical bit, in my experience, is that once you start doing this, things start to change for the better almost immediately. It’s as if positive, happy, grateful thoughts have clean-up powers as well as being able to magic up what you REALLY, REALLY WANT.
Even if you don’t know what you want, think of this as cleaning and flossing your brain. It’s preventative but it also makes you feel much better. As a positive mental attitude is proven to make you more creative and successful according to ‘Learned Optimism’ by Gino Wickman, you are much more likely to get some inspiration about what you REALLY WANT if you do this.
And…did you spot the power word in there?
It really is like a superpower and it’s the fastest, easiest way to change your thought patterns. Just swap your bad, sad, mad, negative, blaming thought for ‘I’m so lucky in life, Today I’m really grateful for …’. More than one thing is allowed!
Look, I’m no saint on this stuff, as you’ll know if you read my blog post on Anxiety, but every day I get up and try again. A couple of Christmas’s ago things were going so wrong on so many different levels, but I consciously managed to keep my head screwed on straight using this technique particularly (plus the ones on the Anxiety post) and after just a couple of months, things got dramatically better very quickly.
Almost magically. Of course, I did keep taking action too.
I’d love to know your thoughts on the Law Of Attraction, positive thinking and especially any stories where you think you might have made things happen differently just by changing your thought processes.
Have a great weekend.